Parents of College athletes, really?

When I first was approached about writing blogs, I was asked to use material about my experiences as the owner/operator of Vantage Athletes.   I am fortunate to find myself surrounded by great people; parents, coaches, athletes, friends, etc., but sometimes people just throw you a loop.




Playing time at the college level?  Come on Parents!

Operating Vantage Athletes is not a 9 to 5 occupation; my lifestyle, network and community involvement tends to put me in a position, quite frequently, to listen and observe the human nature and athletics in many unexplainable ways.  Talking with college coaches I was always in disbelief when they would use “parents” and “playing time” in the same sentence, until last night.

At the conclusion of girls JV game I was having a conversation with a friend/coach; an offensive coordinator of a Division II football program.  I sometimes use this individual as a sounding board when it comes to recruiting thoughts and concerns; real life experiences.  While in conversation, a woman approached him and asked if she could speak with him.  Thinking nothing of it, they separated from the crowd in order to talk.  At the conclusion of their meeting, we continued our talk.  Of course I inquired about that discussion, “AAU matter?” I asked, “No, playing time” he said.  “For your college football program,” I asked, “Yes,” he replied with a smirk.  Needless to say my disbelief regarding this matter now has truth.

It’s sad.  Playing time will always be an issue with youth sports, but at the college level?  As parents, we have afforded everything possible in order to give our student athlete the opportunity to develop and possibly play at a higher level where coaches are hired to coach.  Let the coaches’ coach, it’s their job.  Same holds true in the recruiting process; at Vantage Athletes you are presented for whom and what you are athletically and academically, you will be evaluated, watched and contacted by those coaches with interest regardless of what level.   Parents and student athletes can hope for the ideal, but we have to be humble of what is presented.

As parents, we have spent hours with our children hitting ground balls, shooting free throws, catching the down & out, getting more range balls, shagging tennis balls, driving here & there, and etc., but the time comes when we have to pass the torch to a coach, that includes the college level.  If we, as parents, have helped our student athlete become the best they can possibly be then we have done our job.

I know from experince, that passing the torch is difficult but they are the coaches; it’s their passion, it’s there program, it’s their job…..let them coach.  Sit back; enjoy your sons’ or daughters’ accomplishments, on and off the field, knowing you had a major part in their journey.